What is EFT?  

EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy)  is the fastest growing state-of-the research based method of couple therapy. Its also being successfully used with families. Developed by Drs. Sue Johnson and Les Greenberg, it is considered a best practice intervention by the American Psychological association. Research shows that 70-75% of distressed couples move to recovery and 90% of couples significant improvement.

How Does The EFT Therapist Work With a Couple?

EFT addresses the core questions we often ask ourselves when our relationship is in distress:  “Can I count on my partner to be there for me when I need them most?” “Do I feel secure enough in this relationship to be fully alive and present?”

These worries are often at the heart of what people fight about. Conflicts with our partner or loved one often trigger distressing and painful feelings. Some of us withdraw in order to handle the hurt or to avoid creating more conflict. Others attempt to reconnect by “working it through” but feel pushed away and misunderstood. These bids for connection and understanding can become a rigid and frustrating cycle. Misinterpretations arise about ourselves and our partner. This can cause us to feel guarded and alone in the relationship, unable to access our more tender feelings.

EFT encourages couples to recognize and track their trigger points in order to unhook from this unproductive pattern of coping. The couple learns to team up against the rigid cycle. After achieving success in tracking and reducing the conflict, the couple is helped to create new and more emotionally secure and satisfying ways of connecting and communicating. Old hurts and misunderstandings can be healed as the partners learn ways to promote safety and security in the relationship that allows for greater flexibility and resilience.

To find out more about my couple counseling services, please contact me today to take the first step in your healing journey.