“Love Never Dies A Natural Death. It dies because we don’t know how to replenish its source….” Anais Nin

Couple Therapy

As an ICEEFT certified  EFT couple therapist, I help distressed spouses and partners create more satisfying and secure relationships.

Regardless of the state of your relationship, you can break out of rigid, distancing and unproductive patterns. If you would like to end the repetitive fight cycle, increase closeness and intimacy, improve communication, or renew the charge of early courtship, then EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) can work for you.

What Is EFT?

Emotionally Focused couple therapy (EFT),  is a highly effective, evidence-based treatment approach.

Developed by Drs. Sue Johnson and Les Greenberg, it is considered a best practice intervention by the American Psychological Association and is one of the most scientifically validated approaches in the field.

EFT addresses the core questions we that trouble us  when our relationship is in distress:  “Can I count on my partner to be there for me when I need them most?” “Do I feel safe and secure enough in this relationship to be fully present?”

These worries and concerns are often at the center of fights with our spouse or significant other. Conflicts with our partner  often trigger upsetting and painful feelings. Some of us shut down in order to handle the hurt or to avoid making things worse. Others pursue resolution by “working it through,” but feel rebuffed or misunderstood in our attempts. These bids for connection can become a rigid and predictable cycle or dance. We lose the sense of team as misunderstandings and negative distortions arise. We begin to feel isolated in the relationship, unable to access our tender feelings.

EFT helps couples recognize trigger points and unhook from these rigid patterns. Partners learn to pull together by  ganging up against the rigid standoff. After achieving success in tracking and reducing the conflict, the couple is helped to create new and more emotionally satisfying ways of connecting and communicating. The partners learn how to promote safety and security in the relationship bond in order to nurture love basics.

Populations Served

Married and unmarried partners

Heterosexual couples

Gay and Lesbian Couples

 

Contact Dr. Kate to take the first step on your healing journey